This is an article taken from the personal experience of Alexia Meli, which for me is one of the most accurate approaches to Twin Flames along with my own personal approach of the "return to the Path of Magus" which I am going to explain in detail in an upcoming article. I sincerely believe this will help a lot of women to understand the dynamics and the process of this kind of relationship. Credits go to Alexia Meli and http://alexiameli.altervista.org.
How I discovered my own Animus (for C. Jung the male side inside a woman’s psyche)
How I discovered my own Animus (for C. Jung the male side inside a woman’s psyche)
The strength and the energy a man can give a woman and which makes her unstoppable.
Love at first sight. A fatal attraction, a feeling of involvement that affects the whole being, its physical, mental, emotional, spiritual sides. The feeling of finding a soul-mate. Feeling suddenly “alive”. The awakening of Eros. Here’s what I experienced seeing Brian Molko and that’s what my character Sally experienced seeing Darren.
What is this attraction? The most fascinating state of mind, love. Why does it happen? Why that person and not another one? Why Brian, I was wondering … what does he have that others do not?
Other times I just mentioned that my morbid interest in Brian Molko and Placebo’s music was the motivating factor that pushed me into psychology. Since the very first time I had contact with his figure, though I was clear of nothing, I was sure of one thing: he put me in front of a clear and evident “myself “ that I wasn’t able to see. It was not about projections, that is, I didn’t project upon him the contents of my psyche in terms of desires or expectations or beliefs and prejudices. It was different, he was really the man I had ever dreamed and he was incredibly similar to me.
Other times I just mentioned that my morbid interest in Brian Molko and Placebo’s music was the motivating factor that pushed me into psychology. Since the very first time I had contact with his figure, though I was clear of nothing, I was sure of one thing: he put me in front of a clear and evident “myself “ that I wasn’t able to see. It was not about projections, that is, I didn’t project upon him the contents of my psyche in terms of desires or expectations or beliefs and prejudices. It was different, he was really the man I had ever dreamed and he was incredibly similar to me.
The soulmate of which the mythology speaks, the other part of oneself.
How true, and it was like I met myself and also as I met the other part I needed to feel truly complete.
I started reading about psychology and psychoanalysis in order to understand the nature of the intense bond with this musician and so I understood, reading something by Jung, that I had met in Brian my Animus.
How true, and it was like I met myself and also as I met the other part I needed to feel truly complete.
I started reading about psychology and psychoanalysis in order to understand the nature of the intense bond with this musician and so I understood, reading something by Jung, that I had met in Brian my Animus.
The Anima and the Animus
A side of our personalities includes the role of male or female that has been given us. For most people this role is determined by the physical gender, but Jung, like Freud, Adler and others, believes that we are all bisexual in nature. When we begin to live as a fetus we have undifferentiated sex organs that only gradually, under the influence of hormones, become male or female. When we begin the social life as children we are neither male or female in a social sense. Almost immediately parents begin to dress us in pink or blue and gradually we model as females or males.
In all the societies the expectations on men and women differ usually based on the different roles of the reproduction but with different details that are part of the tradition. It is expected from women to be less aggressive and maternal and from men to be strong and emotionless.
Jung, however, rightly felt that these expectations do not allow the full development of all our potential. We can develop all the male and female potential in the same subject, but traditionally we are given a role that develops only half the potential, the male or female one.
When we speak of masculine and feminine psychological qualities or principles are meant. Male is generally the active, feminine the passive, without any connotation of negative judgment. No principle is better, they both need the other to work.
When we speak of masculine and feminine psychological qualities or principles are meant. Male is generally the active, feminine the passive, without any connotation of negative judgment. No principle is better, they both need the other to work.
According to Jung, the Anima is the feminine aspect present in the unconscious man, and the Animus is the male aspect present in the unconscious woman. Together they form the divine couple, the syzygy. The Anima may be represented in dreams by a young woman, for example, or a witch or mother earth. The Animus may be personified, among others, as a wise old man, a sorcerer, a group of men.
These two archetypes are mostly responsible for our love lives. As suggested by a Greek myth, we are always looking for our half (the one that gods have cut to us) in the members of the opposite sex. When we fall in love we have found someone who matches particularly well our Animus or our Anima.
In this article I will write more about Animus
In this article I will write more about Animus
The Animus represents the male, then action, but also spirit, reason and logic.
The Animus is therefore the man inside the woman. Physically, a woman is female. As we said above psychologically a woman can express only some of her potential in everyday life. In a woman the most dynamic, intellectual and self-assertive side is not fully expressed, as well as creativity and rational thought are kept hidden.
The Animus is therefore the man inside the woman. Physically, a woman is female. As we said above psychologically a woman can express only some of her potential in everyday life. In a woman the most dynamic, intellectual and self-assertive side is not fully expressed, as well as creativity and rational thought are kept hidden.
The animus has three roots: the collective image of Man that a woman acquires, her experience with the men in her life, the male principles latent in her.
In general we can say that the man in a woman’s dreams and fantasies is her social and mental power, her ability to act actively in the world. The Animus is also an expression of her feelings towards the man, matured through experiences with men and especially through the relationship with her father. Ultimately the Animus represents the synthesis of her experience of contact with the “male”.
The Animus can be wonderfully creative or powerfully destructive, depending on the relationship that a woman has with men.
When it highlights “complexes” in the woman’s experience with men, the Animus is manifested in her dreams and fantasies as a man who imprisons, that seduces the woman but only to lead her in distress or to torture her, in general as a negative figure.
The positive animus appears instead as the man who solves problems, shows wisdom and true love, appears as a savior, a deliverer from death itself.
The negative or not integrated animus leads a woman into destructive relationships with herself and with others.
The negative or not integrated animus leads a woman into destructive relationships with herself and with others.
Sometimes the animus appears as a collection of phrases and opinions learned during the childhood that are built as prejudices and preconceptions, limiting and judgmental, and that a woman uses in her dealing with herself and with others. Often the negative relationship with the father is the cause of an inferiority complex.
If it is integrated, the Animus may appear in dreams as a heroic or spiritual male figure.
Men who help, act as guides or images of the sage who gives advice are symbols of an integrated animus. Dreams of masked men, foreigners who invade home, men’s groups, gangs are images of a not integrated Animus.
Men who help, act as guides or images of the sage who gives advice are symbols of an integrated animus. Dreams of masked men, foreigners who invade home, men’s groups, gangs are images of a not integrated Animus.
The good relationship with the Animus shows that a woman is able to integrate her ability to be independent, her masculine qualities. It also means that a woman begins to review the experience with her father in a different way, in order to heal the wounds.
The integrated Animus in fact refers to the woman’s ability to see positively her being male, identifying and associating with it. When a woman stops projecting the male in herself on other men, she begins to integrate the Animus.
As active principle the animus gives a woman the ability to use her creativity transforming intuitive ideas into reality. Animus’s integration is crucial for self-realization.
The integrated Animus is the best ally of women. Women with a high degree of Animus’s integration receive intuitive impulses and act wisely. The integrated Animus tells a woman that she is unstoppable. It encourages her to realize her dreams. The integrated animus makes a woman powerful with assertiveness, courage, analytical thinking, strength, vitality, decision focus and desire to succeed.
The degree of difficulty that a woman has in integrating the Animus corresponds directly to the difficulty in relationships with men with whom she has had bad experiences from childhood. Meetings with monstrous men create images of monstrous men. When not integrated, instead denied or repressed, it acts as a monster, possesses the psyche and acts as a saboteur. Then woman shows aggression, brutality, authoritarianism. The animus becomes a repository of all the perverse male principles.
The way anima and animus works can become self-conscious but the archetypes are unconscious and independent elements; to become aware of them, however, helps to integrate them.
Anima and Animus are for Jung mediators between the conscious and the unconscious.
As Jung says, in my Animus, that is the male within myself, elements of traditional culture converge, for example that male equals strength, courage, violence. Male is pungent and sharp, acute, intelligent, logical, tough, adventurous.
Anima and Animus are for Jung mediators between the conscious and the unconscious.
As Jung says, in my Animus, that is the male within myself, elements of traditional culture converge, for example that male equals strength, courage, violence. Male is pungent and sharp, acute, intelligent, logical, tough, adventurous.
Together with them there are my personal experiences with the male world, starting with my father and my brother. In this case the male within myself is not positive, because one of those which Jung called complexes has been built around the experiences with my father’s figure. A series of negative experiences were combined resulting in negative emotions and negative beliefs, prejudices, fears and anything negative both against the “male” gender as against myself.
This dominant father’s figure is in fact authoritarian, judgmental, restrictive. He didn’t help me to grow, he prevented me from expressing myself, he has created a climate of fear in myself. Of course I understood that it is normal, as a result of this attitude of fear and prejudice, that all my consequent experiences of “the man” were negative, similar to the original, almost stretched to confirm it, despite myself. Of that there is an explanation in the Assagioli’s first psychological law. “The images or mental pictures and ideas tend to produce the physical conditions and the external acts corresponding to them.”
The ideas tend to turn into reality, and also the law of attraction, so popular today, speaks widely of that.
But within myself there is also another man, which expresses in a positive way and represents my “ideal” man, everything I ever wanted and was not. Jung says that the moment a woman begins the animus’s process of integration into her psyche, then the ... (read more HERE)
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